Sex, to do it or not to do it, that’s the question
If you haven’t read “Sex, an introduction 1.1” I strongly recommend you read it before reading this article. You can find it here.
As you may have understood from that first article I am a promoter of sexual activity: in general, sex is good. I do have a word of caution: for how, when and with whom.
The first important thing to understand is that our culture encourages to see our sexual partners as objects of desire. And that accounts for a lot of the drama in our lives.
I will explain this and the other arguments I make in this article by comparing sex with food. These are, after all, two of the strongest urges we have: hunger and sexual desire.
So here is the problem with making your sexual partners into objects of desire, let’s say, an ice-cream:
As much as you might like a strawberry sundae ice cream. Eating strawberry sundae ice cream for the rest of your life is just not gonna work, sooner or later, you will want to have a carrot.
In reality though the sexual experience itself and not the partner is the food and your sexual partner is the person you are sharing that experience with. Very much like sharing a meal with someone.
So the mental story looks a little different:
I really want a strawberry sundae ice-cream right now.
Would you like to go and have a strawberry sundae ice-cream with me?
Now clearly, the answer to the last question can be no. And that doesn’t mean that person doesn’t like or love you, just that they don’t feel like having that ice-cream with you, right now. Or maybe they prefer chocolate. At that point you can explore if you see possibilities to create an experience that blends chocolate and strawberry flavours.
It is imperative that as many people as possible own their own Kundalini. Our life force is systematically being harvested through various structural set ups in the fourth dimension.
Our proficiency in all things life force is inarguably not up to speed. Our collective dramas keep revolving around material expressions of life force like money, sex and aggression. Let's not do that.
Appropriated life force, that means life force that is being owned and claimed by the living identity that it belongs to will create pleasure and love for all things manifest, including bodies, and energy to express.
It is usually nicer to share a meal and eat in company, but if no suitable company is available, that is really no good excuse to go hungry. And also not a good excuse to eat fast food all the time.
You can have a meaningful sex life and meaningful sexual experiences without a partner, with an occasional partner or with a long time partner. This meaning develops based on the intention and consciousness of whoever is involved.
Orgasm and connectivity
Every time you have an orgasm you create a new connection, a connection in energy. This happens also if you are alone, masturbating. With what you will connect depends on your focus, intention and direction. Of course it can be a connection to the person you are having sex with but it can also be one of the energies that is present in your relationship in that moment. An external energy, so to speak; fourth dimensional aspects that you connect to. Those can be energies with higher or lower vibrations than your own. So awareness is key and porn a problem.
You can also connect to your higher self, nature energies or a part of your body. These are powerful options when you masturbate.
The more I learn about sex, the more I notice how far and deep the consequences of our sexual activities are. Therefore I strongly suggest you learn about sexuality and the various dimensions that you are in. And that you learn this first and foremost by yourself.
The creation of a new world
So every time you experience an orgasm you create a connection. This is very meaningful. Especially when you know that the “matter” of the fifth dimension is “connection”. That what seems to be an etherical reality from our experience is what is “matter” in unity consciousness. This means that from a fifth dimensional perspective the individual or individual object is an illusion and the connections are the reality. That makes sense if you think about it a little more. In the realm where “all is one” that what is real is that what makes it all one.
This creation takes different forms in the different dimensions. When we have a sexual encounter and we mix our life force with another we create something new. I call this 1+1= 3
In the third dimension this can become a physical baby. Often it also becomes a shared enterprise or project. Or a satisfying or heartbreaking relationship. Sexual energy is one of the energies that allows you to practice conscious co-creation in a focussed way. As you learn to focus on the love, otherness, appreciation and pleasure you step into the stream of life in a very clear way without even knowing or caring what it is that you create in the third dimension. You can just know you are creating and becoming the world of unity consciousness and that your focus will determine the experience you will reap from it.
Exercise
When in sexual contact with yourself explore how much of your body and energy field you are able to include in your experience. Which energetic movements are happening within you?
Whatever it was that turned you on or that made you desire sexual release try and shift your focus to something that you really would like to connect with. This can be your higher self, a tree, the ocean or your own heart or body.
Allow yourself to feel whatever it is that you are feeling. If you judge, just bring yourself back to the feeling of pleasure and keep stimulating yourself.
Become curious as your interest and focus move in and out of clarity and intensity. Great sex follows a wave pattern that takes you ever higher until you find release. In “low” moments make sure to stimulate other body parts than just your primal erotic zone(s). Be patient.
Become curious about the aspects of otherness, exchange, appreciation and care and allow yourself to loose your mind.
It can be difficult, especially for women, to enjoy and appreciate their body as a sensual, sexual experience. Whatever your ideas are about how sexy or attractive you are really do not need to interfere with your capacity to do this exercise. Your sexuality is the enjoyment of your life force. And as such, it is yours. You own it. It does not depend on anything outside of yourself and you are allowed to enjoy it in beauty and harmony, whenever you want.
When in sexual contact with your lover try to feel into the energetic movements that are happening between you. Maybe you can see the energy that you are creating together. Often this may appear to people as strands of energy floating and flowing and creating forms and dissolving.
If you have difficulty seeing or perceiving the energy try the following. Imagine a flower. Imagine that as the sexual arousal is rising the flower is opening. That as you both move your bodies these movements are opening the flower.
Copyright Maartje Kreuzen 2018